Philadelphia, PA - Thanksgiving is over, and the holiday shopping season is in full swing. Buying all those gifts for everyone on your list can get expensive and overwhelming. How much do you spend? Do you have to buy for absolutely everyone? Is it all right to re-gift? What if you don’t know what to get them?
Mastering the Art of Holiday Gift-Giving Etiquette
Navigating the holiday gift-giving season can be tricky. To help you give gifts with grace and thoughtfulness, international etiquette expert, author, and Protocol & Etiquette Worldwide founder Sharon Schweitzer offers these ten essential rules of holiday gift-giving etiquette:
1. Thoughtful Selection: Beyond "What Do You Want?"
Avoid the impersonal "What do you want?" Instead, demonstrate thoughtfulness by considering the recipient's hobbies, interests, and lifestyle. A fitness enthusiast might appreciate workout gear, while someone who recently moved could benefit from a housewarming gift. The focus should always be on the sentiment behind the gift.
2. Re-gifting Responsibly: A Discreet Approach
While a 2015 American Express survey indicated that 76% of Americans find re-gifting acceptable, it should be done cautiously. Re-gift only within different social circles and meticulously remove any traces of the original gifting, such as handwritten notes or cards.
3. Strategic Gift Lists: Prioritizing Relationships
Review your gift list annually, considering the evolution of your relationships. Have you maintained regular contact through calls, emails, or in-person visits? Did you already give a birthday gift? If the connection has waned, a thoughtful, personalized holiday card may be a more appropriate gesture to avoid any feelings of being forgotten.
4. Navigating Gift-Giving Policies: Professional and Organizational Guidelines
Adhere to gift-giving policies within colleges, schools, offices, and organizations. Exercise caution when gifting superiors, such as professors or bosses, as it can be misconstrued, even if not explicitly prohibited. Consider contributing to group charity gifts instead.
5. Gift Receipts: An Etiquette Essential
Always include gift receipts, regardless of the occasion. This simple gesture allows recipients to easily exchange gifts for size, color, or preference without causing awkwardness or requiring them to ask you directly for a receipt.
6. Budget-Conscious Giving: Avoiding Overspending
Stick to your household budget. Gift-giving should be a joyful expression, not a source of financial stress. Avoid overspending and accumulating debt, as January bills can be harsh.
7. Thoughtful vs. Extravagant: The Value of Sentiment
Avoid "matched spending" driven by pressure rather than genuine thoughtfulness. Extravagant gifts should stem from a desire to give, not an expectation of reciprocation. Often, those who receive lavish gifts already possess most material desires, making a thoughtful, sentimental gift far more meaningful.
8. Gifting Couples: Recognizing Relationships
When gifting someone in a serious relationship, consider giving a gift to the couple rather than individual gifts. A gift certificate to their favorite restaurant or a thoughtful experience, accompanied by a heartfelt note, can be a great option. For engaged or newlywed couples, consult their registry for gift ideas.
9. Responding to Surprise Gifts: Grace and Gratitude
If you receive an unexpected gift, respond genuinely with surprise and gratitude. Acknowledge the unexpected nature of the gift, perhaps mentioning you don't have a gift prepared. Avoid scrambling for a last-minute present. A thank-you note with a small gift later can be a thoughtful follow-up.
10. Holiday Gratuities: Showing Appreciation to Service Providers
Consider offering a holiday gratuity or tip to loyal, long-term service providers as a token of appreciation. Consult a holiday tipping guide for appropriate amounts.
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